My husband is not my dream man.

Before I go into detail, please do not think I don't love my husband, or that I am speaking badly behind his back on some dumb blog.

I wanted to marry a cowboy, straigh up redneck, backwoods, real muscle, horse ridin', gun slingin', hunk of a man!

Ya know what I got : }

I got a nerdy,intelligent, handsome, silly, unpredictable, gaming, awkwardly social, loner, skinny, white kid, who wore pants the whole 6 years he lived in Hawaii, army man, who loves his cat, and He is perfect.

Now, I don't say this as in "Oh my gosh, my husband is the best man in the world. He bought me flowers for no reason, got me a brand new iphone and then took me to dinner all on a Tuesday night."
(that is soo sweet, but I hate those facebook status')

I say he is perfect as in, he was the perfect person for my personality. I thank GOD for chosing my husband for me because if I would have married the first guy, I would probably be divorced in 72 days like our friend Kim....haha!

I am definetially a selfish person with a lot of wants (I am working on that) but I am learning quickly that not getting what you want can really be a blessing.

God gave me a man who is patient, because I have the patience of a four year old.  calm, because I am a "freaker-outer". hilarious, because I love to laugh and he does it every day. a quiet leader, because I am a controller, but his quiet instructions can help me to follow him.

and vice versa. I believe I was given to my husband because I can take a joke, because he is a jokester and a smart-alic, and even when I am really angry, I will just crack up from him. I am independant, my husband can't stand clingy girls who want everything handed to them. I want to be a mother, we both love kids, they are very important to us.

So to sum it all up- You might not get what you expect, but what you get may be more then you expected.

our relationship was definitally a Jesus thing......thanks Dude, you really got things planned out up there. See you on the flipside.

Myrtle (no my name is not Myrtle, that was my great grandmothers name, so it goes with the URL....read below if you are confused.)

Peace out.

Pickles

Are you in this boat?

modernOltimer.....

I would like to explain my url.

I am a young woman in a modern world,  there are many things I enjoy that are from my time....
hip hop, ipods, internet

.....but I feel like I have some Ol'timer in me as well, they grew up in a time of hardwork, respect, and they aprpreciated what they had, mostly because it wasn't much. Thats why I love to sit and talk with those who have stories of the war, change, heartache, passions, and they know how to milk a cow!


Are you in this boat? My blog is called pour Newlyweds, and yes, it does have a double meaning. In the French language, which I studied in high school for three years and this is the first time I am using it (stay with me, there will be a lot of tangents.)  pour = for in English.

So you would think my blog is for newlyweds. Well, sort of, it will probably have mushy, crazy newly married junk but it also means, pour = poor = stuggles. Struggles of an individual, a wife, a Christian, a traveler, a worry-er, a want-er and a spontaneous girl

  A boat filled with two newly married people, who may not have been fully prepared to start a life together, that struggle (really struggle) with money, who bicker, complain, and even have water fights but know that they were put together for a reason by a higher, loving power. We know, we were chose for each other.

We know this isn't going to be easy, but easy isn't fun, if there were no fights there would be no make-up (yes, I mean sex, sorry to my younger readers : ) We also know it is ok to fight, we have promised never to give up on each other, we pray for each other, and we are working on communicating better ; )

Even if you are not in this particular boat, don't count me out. I bet I will surprise you : }
And I do like feedback but please do not yell or curse at me, I don't take that well and this is just my thoughts.

At this point, I have been married about 6 months. I am already learning that this is not a 50/50 deal. A spouse should give 100%. And they should expect 100%